Learn To Recognize The Signs and Help Our Children
As a parent you know what it is to be worried about you teen / child, and sometimes you do not know how to react, even though you want the best for them. We are a team of professionals and we are ready to help you with all your concerns and fears.
When we talk of our life in Hong Kong, we describe the beautiful scenery, the hikes between sea and mountains, exhilarating activity in the city. Our teenagers take their summer with cousins and friends, junks, the pool, beach parties and the wildest Lan Kwai Fong has to offer. What a perfect world! If only it was true…
“Everything was fine. One day our child without a warning sign began to have less desire to go out with his friends, wanting to stay home. We thought it was a passing stage, adolescence is not always simple. Then came the bad grades and then anxieties. Violent, so painful. We were so poor and did not know how to help. Our lives have been affected and no one was prepared for a crisis “, said this mom living in Hong Kong.
How To Recognize The Signs In Teenagers?
- Your child complains of stomach pain or heartache, headache, palpitations
- Your child has eczema, recurrent skin problems, asthma
- Your child loses weight significantly
- Grows for no apparent reason
- Your child is tired, apathetic, often has red eyes, hands trembling slightly
- Refuses to show their body at the pool and the sea
- Hides traces of scarring?
- If the little ones can develop a terrible fear of monsters or “darkness”, the greatest are also victims of sleep disorders: difficulty falling asleep, waking in the middle of the night, and nightmares
- A person complaining of constant tiredness also expresses undoubted discomfort
The fears and / or anxieties
- The older the child gets, the more similar their fears are to those of adults: fear of flying, fear of death, fear of school or school mates.
- These fears can lead to the desire to stay in their room, refusing to go to school or participate in sports.
They stare out constantly and consume alcohol; it’s their age, right? No, not if it’s weekly and abused!
Addictions can sometimes occur unexpectedly.
A Change in Behavior
Teenagers suffering may adopt very different behaviors: shut themself up, to be walled in hostile silence, establishing a distance to each other, become aggressive toward you, siblings, school … or even violent.
Testimony to Dr. Jamieson this week:
“It annoys me so much when I do my homework, I hate English. I am not the one to learn that language, and my mother wants me to do my homework, it is not really going well”
How To Behave? When To Worry?
As a parent, you have a vital role even if these teens bully you sometimes!
Watch it and let yourself be guided by common sense.
You feel an imbalance. Help them to put words to his feelings, ask questions, and listen to them. Do not try to find any cost solutions to fears, oppositions. Move slowly but surely with your child. Respect their space. Reassure them. Spend time with them on activities they love. Share passions, you will gain confidence and complicity.
In this world where everything has to be perfect, you have to as a parent say that it is normal to experience failures and encounter difficulties, that’s life even if nobody likes to talk about these negative experiences.
If the topics to be covered are very personal and regarded by children as “taboos”: alcohol, drugs or sex, be clear and rational, calmly explain the dangers of certain actions, and especially your place as a parent, do not try to be their friend, they have at least 20 in class, they need you certainly, but as a mother / father.
If despite your best efforts, you are unable to communicate with your child and stop their seizures, if your child’s condition affects family life, if you have the inner conviction that something is seriously wrong, then it is time to seek outside help.
Professionals In Physical and Psychological Health Can Help
An individual action plan, specific to your teenager will be implemented by our team based on their needs:
Dr. Susan Jamieson will help you deal with somatic complaints. She has conducted basic training on these issues, enabling it to treat them in an appropriate manner.
The solution is sometimes very emotional and the problem is much deeper than it seems. Anorexic teens often speak quickly of their condition to a doctor when they are behind sweaters, tee-shirts or in the newspaper.
For example, the fact that your teen is irritable or aggressive can hide depression, or the occurrence of headaches can be of any problems at school or stress.
Sometimes, on the contrary, the solution is more somatic and psychological as evidenced by this mom:
“My daughter had terrible stomach aches and some days, no energy go to school. In Beijing, our doctor told us that it must be stress. We were very surprised … But hey!
Arrived in Hong Kong, we decided to explore other possibilities and consulted with Dr. Jamieson. After the consult, it clearly validated a physical problem and to explore other opportunities. My daughter was just intolerant to milk! ”
Dr. Susan Jamiesons help convinced me that holistic treatments are favorable to a peaceful and lasting cure. She will discuss an appropriate diet (sugar, fat, vitamins …) and as required may be to prescribe supplements to help the brain function, or homeopathy or Bach Flowers to help. If the doctor sees that your child needs more assistance, she can accompany you to head to the psychological specialist, best suited according to the issues of your child. If the relationship with Dr. Jamieson is going well, and your child wants to continue therapy with her, Dr. Jamieson , will be happy to accompany him/her, because having conducted training in this area and with experience,
Our clinic is a place where your child can speak safely and benevolence, where we can also address the problems of alcohol, drugs, sex which is sometimes difficult to speak to parents about.
Psychologist For Your Teenagers
These two therapists are both French Speaking and know the problems of an expatriate family abroad.
Dr. Jean-Baptiste Cossoul, Psychologist, specializes in family therapy and has worked with both adolescents and adults. An initial consultation with both parents and the child will allow him to assess the situation.
Sybille de Klebnikoff is our Hypnotherapist and NLP coach who may also be of assistance with teenage depression and other issues. She can help your teenagers help build good self-esteem and overcome stress. She will provide sympathetic support with recognized techniques to face the transitions of life, adaptation to their new environment and make thoughtful choices.
Should you wish to receive our help, please contact us using the following details:
Tel: 2523 8044.